This year has been rough! I think we can all agree on that. But, that doesn’t mean that this year was a waste. It doesn’t mean we chuck it in the f!ck it bucket and regret every moment. There are still several things to be thankful for. At least for me, anyways.
One of the things I am most thankful for is that 2020 has forced me to do some self reflecting. It has made me start a wellness journey in which I don’t think I ever would’ve started. I make sure to do things that make me happy. And I’ve started saying, “No” to the things that don’t make me happy. I’m earning that my life doesn’t have to be centered around making other people happy. I am learning to live my life for me. Which, it sounds crazy, but growing up we are told to be polite, don’t be rude, and don’t be selfish. Turns out, we do need to be selfish and sometimes, rude!
Another thing I am thankful for from this year is that through all the struggle and pain that this year has brought, I have lost friends. Sounds weird right? Why would I be thankful for that? It’s because the friendships that deteriorated, are not the friendships I wanted or needed in my life. The friendships I do have, have evolved into something even greater. People who started out as “work friends” have become family. Even some relationships with family members have withered away, or have been torn at the seams. And I am thankful for that. Because negativity is negativity. It doesn’t matter where or who it comes from. And I do not need it in my life.
Oh! Something else I’m super grateful for, and it may sound corny to some. I have gotten to spend some time with family this year. With Covid, I have only been able to see a little bit of family. Mostly my parents. Now, when Covid hit, I stayed home. I think I stayed home for 6 days straight and finally I called my mom and asked if I could come over for a bit. We stayed on the back porch and social distanced. No hugs and kisses. No going in the house which was a struggle because I have the bladder of a three year old and it’s a 45 minute drive to her house. Now, if I really had to go I could have. Instead I stopped on the way. But, as we have learned more about the virus I have visited her more. I literally only go to the gym (they take my temperature every day), my parent’s house, and MAYBE Wally World. I have been able to spend some much needed time with my parents. Making memories.
I’m also thankful for the opportunity to work from home. It has been and still is an adjustment. But working from home gives me more time with my husband on his days off. I would love to say it helps me save money, but that’s not the case at all. It has provided so much flexibility than if I were working in an office.
Lastly, I am thankful I have been able to start a blog and tell my story. I want to help people learn from my personal experiences. That means being bold. Being vulnerable. And being authentic. I’m ready for it. I have experienced quite a bit in my almost 30 years and continue to learn new things every day.
2020 has shown the ugliest side of people. From the racial injustices, the dirty politicians, and a virus that has changed where we go and when. There have been a lot of downs. But, it’s not a total waste of a year. For some, 2020 may have taught people to be thankful for toilet paper. Some way more than others. And for some 2020 may have been a time for people to be thankful for the time to self-reflect. Start new projects. Engage in a hobby. Love from a distance. There are so many things to be thankful for. You just need to notice them and get out of your head. That’s all for now. Let’s end this year on a positive note!