Have you ever been so stressed or overwhelmed that even self-care doesn’t fix it? That was me this past weekend. Come Friday of last week I was starting to realize I was getting kind overwhelmed. So I did a few things Saturday morning and then relaxed until about 7 p.m. on Saturday. Just chilled out and watched Netflix and scrolled through my phone. Sunday morning, I woke up, and was just in the mindset of needing to get everything done because I spent the day being lazy the day before. Went downstairs to make my coffee. Started my coffee. Next thing I knew, the dishwasher was almost unloaded. Went to finished my coffee, it was cold. I nuke it for 30 seconds. While its warming up, I load the dishwasher, ignoring the*beep, beep, beeeep* about 3 separate time. Finish the dishes, nuke the coffee again. Come upstairs to my office. I realize its a disaster from all of my latest projects. I’ve mentioned before that I like organization and structure. So naturally,I clean up my room. I get the room today and go to sip my soul touching coffee, it’s cold. I sit there for a minute debating whether or not I’m going to go heat it up. I travel down the stairs and nuke it ONE LAST TIME. Make a b-line for my office, and plop down in my chair. As I sip my coffee and it reaches my soul, I realize that as soon as things were cleaned up and put away, I felt better.
Why am I like this? This is what I thought about for the next several minutes as I began to work. I feel like I can’t be the only one who experiences this. I get overwhelmed and stressed about all the things I need to do, so I put it off. But then, as soon as I start doing them I feel much better.
So what did I learn this weekend? For me, self-care may just be, doing the things. The things that I stress out about. The things that I anticipate will make everything worse. Turns out, doing the things are what make me feel calm. That, and bubble baths. But, I notice this is not the case for everybody. Below I have listed some self-care acts that may help with your stress.
Take a Walk – Exercise boosts your endorphins. Endorphins are hormones the help minimize pain and trigger a positive feeling in your body. These are often called “happy hormones”.
Bubble Baths – Stress causes your muscles to contract. Causing tension. The bubble bath helps relax your muscles. Choose a scent that makes you feel calm and just let your body and mind relax. Take a few deep breaths and close your eyes. I used to take 2-3 baths a day. That’s right! They made me feel so calm, still do. But, when I was going through a rough time as a teenager, I would take several baths a day, because that’s what made me happy.
Journaling – I started journaling regularly about 2 months ago. I would always buy a journal. Write one entry and not pick it up for another year. I always bought journals with great intentions. But, I finally set a reminder in my phone for 8pm every night. And when it goes off, I write. Write about the day. Good or bad. Even If I had a bad day, at the end of the entry I will write about one good thing that happened that day. Sometimes, the best thing that happened during my day wa say coffee or a kiss from hubs. But, there is at least one good thing. I make sure i jot down the positive from the day so I am not ending my day on a negative thought. The relaxing part is that I can get my thoughts out without speaking them. For me, that helps.
The Humpty Dumpty – Yup! Sex also release a large amount of endorphins, happy hormones. Sex helps your muscles relax, afterwards of course. Also, sex is a great way to think about nothing else except what is going on in that moment. Thus, giving your brain a break from all the things that are stressing you out.
Do the Things– If you are stressed because you feel like you have a lot to do, spend a few moments doing a few of the things. Even if its the small things. Run the trash ot. Pick up the living room. Change out the toilet paper roll. Just do a few of those small tasks and see if that helps. As I learned, that’s what it takes for me. I could’ve just complained. I could’ve had another self-care day. But the sense of accomplishment made me more relaxed than the other self-care acts that I did the day before.
Most importantly, know you are not alone. The world is a crazy place, especially now. It’s okay to not be okay. It’s okay to reach out and vent to a friend. It’s okay to find yourself a community of people like you. It’s okay to learn from others. It’s oaky to have a “poor me” moment. But make sure you take a moment. Take a moment to do what is going to be best for you.
Comment below or email me and let me know what your methods of reducing stress are. As always, I love to learn knew things. Share this with a friend you think may need to hear that they are not alone.